The World Through Not So Rose Colored Glasses.
Growing up my family dealt with hardship by ignoring it. With everything that went wrong we were to look the other way and although there are times in life when you have to look past things the issues we dealt with weren’t those times.
However growing up in a world where emotions were repressed and we were forced to put a smile on our face took its toll. I talk a lot about focusing on the positive. It’s important. Really, seeing the good in the world is key. It sets us up so that when the shit hits the fan we are able to deal with it in move on. Because let’s face it shit happens and when it does we need to be able to react and move past it. When we focus only on the positive it’s easy to start ignoring the bad and when things really get bad our blinders are so imbedded in us that we can’t see or handle the bad.
What I’m trying to find of good way of saying is that although we need to look for the positive we also need to acknowledge the negative. We need to let it into us, fill us up, and feel every moment of it. All the sad, the bad, and the depressing in our life. We need to let it in so that we can know what it looks like. Use it to teach us how to handle the bad when it comes, but most of all learn when to let go and more on in a healthy way.
Okay, now how crazy does this sound: By understanding the negative we can be more compassionate. What!? Think about it. Have you ever been hurt where you needed a sympathetic ear, a shoulder to cry on, or to hear an apology? Or to have some one to go through this with you, listen to you, and then help see when to move on? I have. Those people who were there or who have apologized were the people who understood where I was. They got how I felt.
So, that is what I have to say. I’ve been in a bit of a strange, introspective phase lately. What do you think? Have you ever ignored the negative? What was the outcome?
I believe that life is a balancing act. You just got to take the good with the bad. What do you think?