100 Ways To Reinvent Your Life Part 3
51. Stop yelling: There have been studies about yelling being harmful to children, but think about what happens when you yell. Your face gets red, blood pressure rises, you get angry, and stress levels sky-rocket. Does your point get across? Not really. When made try taking a deep breath and saying what you feel. Explain why you are mad. Tell that person your feeling. The outcome may surprise you.
52. Get out of your head: It can be a scary place. A place where we over think things. The place where those little voices that bring us down live. Stop listening to those voices. Get out of that bad head space.
53. Say no: We are over scheduled, over worked, and there is way too much on our plates each day. Helping out is a good thing. At some point we have all been helped, but there is a point when we just have to say no. It’s okay to say it. It might be hard, but remember practice makes perfect.
54. Recognize what isn’t working: If you feel like you just keep going in circles than something isn’t working for you. Take a good long look at what is going wrong. Is there a lack of communication, are you not happy, not enough money? Now what can you do to change that? There is always an answer. All you need to figure out what is going on and make a plan on how to fix it.
55. Stop the excuses: This may come off as harsh but stop with the bullshit excuses. Oh, I’ve been there. I had an excuse for everything. A reason for everything that was going on in my life and I built a wall so nothing could change. It was a bit of fear. A part being use to way things are. Even a part of self loathing. You are worth having good things happen. You are worth more. You are the only one who can change things.
56. Do things little by little: Getting overwhelmed by the big picture is easy. Breaking it down into smaller parts and working on a goal that was is easier. It’s less overwhelming and makes easier to see the progress.
57. Get organized: This is one of my many causes of stress. Knowing where important papers are and not having things fall on my head when I open a cabinet door is nice. It’s really nice. Organizing, decluttering, minimizing the stuff that we have around us can have very positive effects on our mood and levels of stress.
58. Ask: If you want something than just ask. It’s amazing the things that can come of just asking. What’s the worst thing that you can hear? No.
59. Listen to your body: Your body is smart. It tells you when you are hungry, when you are tired, when something isn’t right. Listen to what your body is telling you. Take good care of it. You don’t get another one.
60. Communicate: Make sure you say what you need to say. Tell people what you feel. Give compliments. Tell people what you appreciate about them. Never assume. If you want something done than communicate it. Good communication can go very far.
61. Stretch: Take ten minutes and stretch. It’s amazing what it can do for your mood.
62. Let go of the past: Baggage is called baggage for a reason. It prevents us from moving forward. Coping with events of the past is hard, but by making amends with the past is the only way to move on. Remember the past is in the past. There is no going back. There is no changing what happened. Do what you need to do to make amends. Forgive yourself. Forgive others.
63. Ask for help: Asking for help doesn’t make you week. It takes a strong person to admit when they need it. Ask it’s okay, really, it is. How else can you learn if you don’t ask? If you drowning in depression or struggling with an addiction asking for help is the most important, life changing thing that you can do. You may be scared, but find someone who will listen and ask for help. Okay, now repeat after me. I. Will. Ask. For. Help.
64. Buy a new wardrobe: Although not cheap freshening up your wardrobe can make you feel like a new person. Think of getting dressed like painting a picture. Use your clothing to express who you are or how you feel.
65. Revision your living space: It’s funny how something as small as moving things around can change your attitude. When things are feeling stagnate one great way to refresh things is to move around some furniture.
66. Be a good friend: The only way to have good friends is to be one yourself. Call them, send them random letters in the mail covered in drawings, be there in times of need.
67. Stop comparing yourself to others: If you look hard enough you can see anything that you want in someone else. They are prettier, thinner, smarter, more talented. The list goes on, but how often does the real person live up to the image you have in them? Instead of focusing how you measure up make a list of what is amazing about you.
68. Step away when stressed: R works nonstop. He doesn’t take breaks and takes lunch at his desk. Needless to say he is stressed, but when he takes breaks he says his day goes by faster and he is noticeably happier. When you are feeling stressed step back. Take a break even a bathroom break if you can’t step away longer. Removing yourself from the stressors helps you recollect yourself and be able to see it with new eye when you come back.
69. Don’t believe in impossible: When we think something is impossible we build a barrier. Stop putting up that wall. Stop believing in impossible. File it away with the Tooth Fairy and the Boogie Man.
70. Never stop learning: Never stop. Never ever stop learning. Read. Watch documentaries, take classes, join book groups. Keep your mind sharp. Make it a rule: if you don’t understand something learn about it.
71. Leave work at work: When you step out of the office leave it there. Allow yourself the time when you are home to relax, spend time with your family, or pursue things that make you happy. Giving yourself this time also rejuvenates you so when you go back to work you are going back with a fresh mind.
72. Go after the job you want: What is the job that you would love to do. Make a plan. Do you need to go to school? Maybe an internship? What path do you need to take to get that job? Figure it out and go for it.
73. Live in the present: If we get trapped in the past we only get stuck in our failures or glory of the days past. If we only live in the future we miss out on today. live for today because you never know what happen tomorrow.
74. Find something to live on in: We all need something that brings meaning to your life. What do you want to live on in?
75. Take your vitamins: Not only are they good for you, but they can make you happier. Feeling down or tired? Try Omega-3. Take Vitamin D for strong bones or Vitamin C to boost your immune system. Ask your doctor which vitamins you should be using.
Want to see the rest? Part 1, Part 2, Part 4.